When I hear people complimenting themselves, it always throws me off a little bit at first.
I recently did a series of interviews for work where I was asking people how they’ve reached certain achievements. And I expected folks to say things like, “I’ve been really blessed/lucky to have this opportunity,” “I had a lot of help,” “I can’t believe this has happened to someone like me!”
So I was really taken aback when multiple people were like, “I’m really good at this,” “I’m a natural leader,” “I’m super smart,” “I love what I do,” “I was made for something like this!” “I always say, I can do anything!”
My initial reaction is always… “What?!” It grates against the ear as if it’s bragging or betrays a lack of humility which I grew up thinking was the worst personality trait. But that says more about me than anyone else. Compliments are something other people give you, not something you give yourself…right?
I don’t always say I can do anything. But why not? It’s not that I don’t believe that I can do anything. Even with all of my negative self-talk, deep down, I feel capable and smart and fierce and talented and destined for good and great things. I know I can do amazing things. I just never say it out loud to myself and especially not to others.
Why should we wait for other people to compliment us?
As I’m going through my affirmation challenge this week, I find myself thinking about how affirmation is all about saying the thing out loud. I feel like if I talk that talk, I have to back it up; I’m not allowed to fail. But even in my failures, I always get back up and I fly again.
I titled this journal entry “Why Do You Doubt?” because I’m inspired by a famous scene in the Bible, when Jesus said to Peter, “oh ye of little faith, why do you doubt?” Like, didn’t Peter know who he was? Didn’t he know was with him and who’s helped him so far in his life? Why would he doubt that he could do anything when everything in his life has shown him that nothing is impossible? (can you tell I’ve been really getting into Bible study, lately?)
Why do I doubt? Don’t I know who the heck I am? Don’t I know everything I’ve been through, everything I’ve overcome? Everything I’ve achieved? Don’t I know everything that’s possible for me because I’ve seen the impossible come true before? If I believe that, how can I even stop myself from saying OUT LOUD that I’m really good at this… I’m a natural leader… I’m super smart… I was made for this… I can do anything.
Because it’s true.
This journal entry was written for DAY 5 of the Finding the Right Words September Affirmation Challenge. Follow Finding The Right Words on Instagram for more prompts and affirmations. Write your own journal entry and share it with me!
There’s no wrong way to journal. You just gotta find the right words. Happy Writing!