I agree. Self-discipline is a way to saying "I love you, so I support your longevity". It took me a while to realize I value the compounded rewards of delayed gratification over the quick dopamine hits of short term satisfactions.
Also I feel you on the wash day struggle. I too feel too damn old to be contorting myself in the shower to wash my hair. I deserve clean hair, but do I have to be the one to clean it? lol
I recently was at my bestie’s place (she has I think 4C curls, and a 1.5 year old) to keep her company on wash day and she showed me how to do her protective twists so we are starting a lil ritual of friend time where I can help her with this self care too! It feels sacred and I feel honoured to have this deep friendship and ethos of care with her 😇
Whew, why no one warned us that self-care wasn’t always pretty is beyond me because MAN. Some of the most necessary self-care is sometimes some of the most uncomfortable and difficult things to do. I can’t relate to the hair piece because I keep mine short and/or braided and let someone else deal with it. But, I did recently get back in the gym and each time it takes so much energy just to push past the discomfort and discouragement I feel when I can’t match my previous momentum and stamina. But I remind myself that it took time to build up to that in the first place AND regress and it’ll take time to do it again.
I agree. Self-discipline is a way to saying "I love you, so I support your longevity". It took me a while to realize I value the compounded rewards of delayed gratification over the quick dopamine hits of short term satisfactions.
Also I feel you on the wash day struggle. I too feel too damn old to be contorting myself in the shower to wash my hair. I deserve clean hair, but do I have to be the one to clean it? lol
I recently was at my bestie’s place (she has I think 4C curls, and a 1.5 year old) to keep her company on wash day and she showed me how to do her protective twists so we are starting a lil ritual of friend time where I can help her with this self care too! It feels sacred and I feel honoured to have this deep friendship and ethos of care with her 😇
Whew, why no one warned us that self-care wasn’t always pretty is beyond me because MAN. Some of the most necessary self-care is sometimes some of the most uncomfortable and difficult things to do. I can’t relate to the hair piece because I keep mine short and/or braided and let someone else deal with it. But, I did recently get back in the gym and each time it takes so much energy just to push past the discomfort and discouragement I feel when I can’t match my previous momentum and stamina. But I remind myself that it took time to build up to that in the first place AND regress and it’ll take time to do it again.